Dear Julie,

‘Opposites attract' and my wife and I are a prime example. Lana, my wife, is a friend of a friend of yours and that is how she found out about the work you do and became one of the initial subscribers to your newsletter. She has always been an aggressive woman while I have always been one to avoid confrontation, and for over two years now she has been putting into practice much of what you preach.

Long before that she had turned me into a cuckold husband because I was a great disappointment to her in the bedroom. Since I am a good provider (I'm an accountant in my day job) and a good husband in all other respects, she has no interest in divorce. She simply gets her sex elsewhere, and there is nothing I can do about it.

Even though we are strict Evangelical Christians, Lana has no qualms about having sex outside of our marriage and feels justified in doing so since I have always had erection and premature ejaculation problems. Lana and I are in charge of the Youth Ministry at our local megachurch, and that brings her in contact with many young people with a wide assortment of problems, and she has a talent for helping them. Many of these young people's problems are based on ignorance and confusion about sex, and Lana sees it as her duty to personally teach them about sex. Many people may think it is unethical, if not morally and legally wrong, for her to be sexually intimate with teenagers — both boys and girls! — but she does, and she has well thought out her justification for doing so and can convince anyone that what she does is not only a good thing but that she is providing a much needed service. She has been doing this for a dozen years, and she has an amazing success rate in turning these kids into happy, confident teens. With horny young boys and sweet innocent young girls to fill her physical and emotional needs, she has little need for sexual intimacy with me. Still I do as much as I can for her, and my position with her is more along the lines of a cleanup man — or maid!

Sexually, she ignored me for years, but after you started issuing your newsletter, she adopted many of your ideas for me. Since early in our marriage, she knew my prime sexual outlet was masturbation and tacitly tolerated it, but after reading your ideas, she realized masturbation by a husband was akin to adultery, and she was convinced she had to take charge of me sexually.

She started out by making me wear white nylon satin panties and securing them on me with a thin wire threaded through the waistband and locked with a tiny padlock. She prohibited me from masturbating except under her direction, but she did give me the rare joy of relief strictly for health reasons since she knew it wasn't wise to forever forbid a male from ejaculating. But for me, a strange thing happened: The problem was that the soft panties stimulated me and I was going around most of the time with a partial if not a full erection! Previously, I had problems maintaining an erection, but now I couldn't get rid of my erections! I complained, but she said I'd get used to the soft nylon panties cuddling my penis 24/7. Well, I didn't, and I had a greater need to masturbate than ever before, so I thought I'd solve my little problem by simply taking my penis out through the leg band of my panties, masturbating and then simply slipping it back under the panties, but then I learned why she had me in the white nylon panties: They show even the slightest traces of cum, and for an hour or two after a penis is masturbated, it always leeks a few more drops of cum no matter how well the penis is washed and cleaned. So soon after I had shot my wad, she saw the stains and knew I had disobeyed her, and that's when she implemented another thing you advocate to keep males in line: spanking!

I had never been spanked in my life, but now I was being spanked over my white panties, and those panties were so thin my reddened bottom glowed right through them, but worst of all, the teasingly soft panties were maddeningly terrorizing to wear as they cupped my tenderized and burning rear!